You have found my site because you are attracted to shemales – transgendered women. There is something about a beautiful woman with a penis that intrigues you. You are scintillated by the thought having sex with her – sucking her, penetrating her anally or perhaps even being penetrated by her! Maybe your interest goes beyond sex and you actually desire to have a loving committed relationship as well.
So does this interest of yours mean that you are Gay? I know that at some point this is a thought crosses the mind of many men who are attracted to shemales therefore I decided to address this issue and give you my personal opinion.
Attraction to shemales absolutely does not NOT mean you are gay. Here is my rationale. Engaging a particular sex act is not indicative of sexual orientation. Anal sex, for example, is not exclusively a homosexual practice. It is popular with heterosexuals too as I mentioned in my previous posting. Engaging in anal sex or oral sex with a shemale from a passive position traditionally regarded as the “female role” has no relevance to sexual orientation either because they are merely physical forms of expression.
Sexual orientation is exclusively determined by the object of your psyhcological/sexual attraction. If you are attracted to a man, you’re a homosexual. If you are attracted to women, you’re heterosexual. If you are attracted to both sexes, you are bisexual. Regardless of the fact that shemales are genetically male from birth, our appearance, energy and essence is 100% female. Your attraction to us is based on our unique femininity so therefore if would fall under the category of heterosexual regardless of the specific sexual practices in which you may engage. Does this make sense? I hope it does.
As I mentioned, this is my opinion and I believe it is logical and intellectually sound. However, I must give you this warning. Most shemales that you will find on the shemale dating sites will not agree with my analysis. They want to be in a relationship in which they perform traditionally feminine roles and they want their men to perform traditionally masculine roles as a validation of their femininity. So if you were to meet a shemale who feels this way, and most do, you would have no chance of a successful relationship if she finds out you have an interest in performing traditionally feminine roles in sex. In her mind, you would be gay and it would be a complete turn-off.
This is why it is very important to know exactly what you want and be honest about it. If you want to engage in traditionally dominant or masculine roles during sex then identify yourself as a top. If the passive sexual practices interest you then identify yourself as versatile or bottom. The shemales who match your interest will find you and you can easily avoid embarrassing misunderstandings.
I hope this post helps you in your shemale dating efforts : )
Hugs & Kisses
Dee
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